Seeing that somehow June is almost over I wanted to (for once) do a bit of a mid-year reflection and see if I’ve been keeping to those new year resolutions.
For me, one of the biggest things I wanted to work on in 2018 was my fear of change.
You’d think that for someone who has moved so much change wouldn’t be a big deal, I mean I should be used to it by now. But it is, small and big changes…they kind of give me anxiety.
Part of it is that I just don’t like change, but the other part is I’m superstitious about changing things. I know, it makes me sound ridiculous but it’s true.
So for me, one of the goals going into 2018 was to be more open to and even more encouraging of change, and to be honest I’d really like to say that I have been but I think it still needs a bit of work. I’ve found that sometimes I get in a mood to change things, and then it is just changing as many things as possible in that short window. Other times I find myself about to change something and then stepping back from it, saying I’ll do it later.
As much as change can be scary, change can be good. Recently, there have been some major changes in my life and I’ve had no choice but to go head on with those ones. I feel like sometimes the big changes can happen and it won’t affect me as much. It’s the smallest of changes that can give me anxiety.
So to try and help me actually achieve this resolution, I’ve put together a few coping techniques that I can use:
- Change first, think second. Sometimes the more I think about the change the more it kind of spirals out of control and I’ll revert back to keeping it how it was. Don’t over think it, just change it…you can ponder about it later on.
- When you find yourself in the mood to change, change everything.
- Focus on the positives, changes are often a great way to hit reset and give yourself something fresh to start with.
Until next time,